In Remembrance of Our Feelings

Many a times I witness smiling faces at a funeral, and it’s tough to digest the fact how humanity permits one to do so. By just being present there doesn’t mean you have done your bit till you feel it inside your heart, if not for the departed soul, but at least for those left behind!

I would like to say it’s time to accept that our feelings are dying a slow death. They are virtually on death bed. If you cannot feel at the time when someone has passed away, how can you feel when he or she is still alive?

I am talking about numerous instances when I see people making an appearance on someone’s death just for the sake of doing so. You would agree, covered heads and wearing dark glasses can’t hide your unwillingness of being there at a solemn occasion of a family having lost a dear one.

Even then what matters is, giving glances to known faces, ensuring that foundation on your face is just perfect, and making sure you are wearing a designer white suit with good embroidery on it.

Does death entail such perfection when you should have be mourning the family which will take a long time to accept the fact that someone close to them won’t be with them ever again?

I agree you cannot feel the grief it brings to the other family, but you can definitely share it. You can be there for a reason which is what and not because you are to show your face to the bereaved family.

At least you can curtail your smile for a while and pray for the family to cope with the irreparable loss putting yourself in their place. If not today, one day you will be facing it too, and what you would need is someone holding you tight and helping you bear it with strength.

Don’t let your feelings in death be on the death bed, and if they are, ask your heart if it can set them right, because you would also need them in abundance from others when the time comes…